Do you love her?

02-02-2013, 05:01 PM
#1
Do you love her?

i have been with my gf for a month, that's why I haven't been on TA as much.. but like i really love this girl.. i know its been a month and things can change and there is no commitment or something.. but i need help.. how long have you guys been together with your gf or wife? can you really stay together for 50 more years and still say you love her the same way you felt at the beginning of the relationship? I need help. :/




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Last edited by Hambo12; 02-03-2013 at 12:42 AM.
02-02-2013, 06:38 PM
#2
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Obviously it can last, as there are plenty of old couples around who couldn't live without each other, but it's really a case-by-case thing. If you've only been with her a month I wouldn't waste time thinking about serious commitment just yet, keep doing what you're doing and enjoy it the way it is now. You don't have to make important decisions hoping your feelings will stay the same, wait for the feelings first and make the decisions after.

02-02-2013, 06:47 PM
#3
So funny that in asian we get married first and fall in love later^^(arcording to my textbook at school)
02-02-2013, 07:00 PM
#4
Your question made me instantly think of this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JvxHPtEsmFc

Not sure if you know these guys, but they're huge with Asians. Really though, watch it.

Actually, this was the video I was thinking of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY

If it's too long, just watch from 13:50 and on. I think it answers your question pretty well. The first video is still good though.

Anyways, been with my gf for nearly four years now. I just turned 20. Surprise. Like Midian said, there's no need to think about commitment and what not yet. Just take your time in building your relationship early on.

Also, is this your first gf?

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Last edited by backtothis; 02-02-2013 at 07:18 PM.
02-02-2013, 08:49 PM
#5
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Originally Posted by backtothis View Post
Your question made me instantly think of this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JvxHPtEsmFc

Not sure if you know these guys, but they're huge with Asians. Really though, watch it.

Actually, this was the video I was thinking of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY

If it's too long, just watch from 13:50 and on. I think it answers your question pretty well. The first video is still good though.

Anyways, been with my gf for nearly four years now. I just turned 20. Surprise. Like Midian said, there's no need to think about commitment and what not yet. Just take your time in building your relationship early on.

Also, is this your first gf?


No she said im her first bf, so im thinking she think it will be all happy and stuff. She's 15 im 16... And she says we will get married and everything.. But she really doesn't know a lot about relationships. I love her but i know that nothing last forever.

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02-02-2013, 08:55 PM
#6
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Little young to be thinking about anything permanent.
02-02-2013, 09:03 PM
#7
I believe love can still last, even after long years of marriage, but it definitely requires a lot of sacrifice and self-giving. You also have to be mature enough to know that this is what's right for the both of you before you make any commitment.

Just my thoughts on the matter.
02-02-2013, 10:46 PM
#8
We both liked each other since last year.... we talked for two weeks before going out this year.... i don't want to loose her.... maybe a picture of us would show you. image.jpg



she love me too, but it's only a matter of time before the butterflies go away and honeymoon phase.

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02-02-2013, 11:01 PM
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You're obviously happy now and that's what matters. If you're in love, you're in love. See where that road takes you. It's impossible to predetermine where your relationship will be in X years, but if you want that love and happiness (as well as hopes and dreams) to remain, you should keep at it and deal with whatever curveballs life throws at you. You can't say "the butterflies will go away"...they'll always be there as long as you both want them to be.

I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and it sometimes seems like the entire world is against us, but here we are, still going strong...always will be.

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02-02-2013, 10:33 PM
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Originally Posted by Hambo12 View Post
No she said im her first bf, so im thinking she think it will be all happy and stuff. She's 15 im 16... And she says we will get married and everything.. But she really doesn't know a lot about relationships. I love her but i know that nothing last forever.
Enjoy the high school years, and take it easy, guy. Like you said, it has only been a month. See how things go. You're in no hurry to pop the question even if it were to happen due to your age. Also, that's a very cynical view, lol.

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